Instructions:
Write down the answers.
1. How do you feel about a partner who doesn’t share household responsibilities?
A) It’s unacceptable, they should contribute equally.
B) It depends, if they have a valid reason, I might compromise.
C) It’s not a big deal, I can handle it if they’re supportive in other ways.
2. What’s your stance on dishonesty in a relationship?
A) Any lie, big or small, is a deal-breaker for me.
B) Small white lies are okay, but major dishonesty is unforgivable.
C) I’m willing to forgive if they’re honest about why they lied.
3. How important is financial compatibility to you?
A) Extremely important, we must have similar spending habits.
B) Somewhat important, as long as we communicate openly about money.
C) Not a priority, love is more important than finances.
4. What’s your reaction to a partner who avoids discussing the future?
A) It’s a red flag, they need to be on the same page as me.
B) I’d give them time, but eventually, it would bother me.
C) I’m okay with taking things slow, it’s not urgent.
5. How do you feel about a partner who isn’t close with their family?
A) It’s a deal-breaker, family is very important to me.
B) I’d want to understand their reasons before judging.
C) It doesn’t matter to me, their relationship with their family is their business.
6. What’s your attitude toward a partner who struggles with commitment?
A) Unacceptable, I need someone ready for a serious relationship.
B) I’d work with them if they’re willing to grow and change.
C) I’m flexible, I can adapt to their pace.
7. How do you react when a partner dismisses your feelings?
A) It’s intolerable, they need to respect my emotions.
B) I’d address it calmly and see if they improve over time.
C) I’d let it slide occasionally, it happens to everyone.
8. What’s your stance on socializing with friends outside the relationship?
A) My partner must prioritize our relationship over their friends.
B) Balance is key, they can have their own life, but not at my expense.
C) Their friendships don’t affect me as long as they’re happy.
9. How do you feel about a partner who doesn’t support your goals?
A) It’s a deal-breaker, they need to cheer me on unconditionally.
B) I’d talk to them about it and see if they can change.
C) I don’t expect constant support, it’s not always necessary.
10. What’s your biggest fear in a relationship?
A) Being with someone who doesn’t respect my boundaries.
B) Feeling like I’m not a priority in their life.
C) Losing myself or my independence in the relationship.
Scoring System:
A = Strict Boundaries (Clear Deal-Breakers)
B = Flexible Negotiator (Willing to Compromise)
C = Laid-Back Partner (Few Deal-Breakers)
Tally up the number of times each letter appears in your responses.
Strict Boundaries
You have clear deal-breakers and know exactly what you need in a relationship. Your strong sense of self and values helps you set healthy boundaries, ensuring you don’t settle for less than you deserve. While this clarity is empowering, remember to remain open to growth and understanding in your partner.
Flexible Negotiator
You’re a flexible negotiator—you have deal-breakers but are willing to work through challenges with your partner. Your ability to compromise and communicate makes you adaptable in relationships. Keep nurturing this mindset by ensuring your needs are still being met while supporting your partner’s growth.
Laid-Back Partner
You’re a laid-back partner with few deal-breakers, prioritizing love and connection over strict rules. Your openness and patience make you easy to be with, but be mindful of neglecting your own needs. Setting some boundaries can help you maintain balance and avoid resentment in the long run.
