Instructions:
Write down the answers.
1. How often do you think about your ex?
A) All the time, they’re always on my mind.
B) Occasionally, especially when I’m feeling lonely.
C) Rarely. I’ve mostly moved on.
2. What’s your reaction when you see an old photo or memory of them?
A) Overwhelmed with emotions, it feels like reliving the past.
B) Nostalgic but aware it’s in the past.
C) Indifferent, it doesn’t affect me much anymore.
3. How do you describe your last breakup?
A) Devastating. I still haven’t fully recovered.
B) Painful but necessary for growth.
C) A clean break. I’ve accepted it and moved on.
4. What’s your attitude toward reconnecting with an ex?
A) I’d jump at the chance, they’re “the one that got away.”
B) I’d consider it, but only if things have changed.
C) No thanks. I’ve closed that chapter of my life.
5. How do you feel about being single after a past relationship?
A) Scared and lonely. I miss having someone.
B) Content but open to meeting someone new eventually.
C) Empowered. I’m enjoying my independence.
6. What’s your biggest regret about past relationships?
A) That it ended. I wish we could go back.
B) That I didn’t communicate better or address issues sooner.
C) Not much, I learned valuable lessons and grew from it.
7. How do you handle reminders of your ex (e.g., mutual friends, social media)?
A) It’s painful, I avoid anything that reminds me of them.
B) It stirs up some feelings, but I try not to dwell on it.
C) It doesn’t bother me, I’ve made peace with the past.
8. What’s your mindset about love after a breakup?
A) Fearful. I don’t think I’ll find someone like them again.
B) Hopeful. I believe there’s someone better out there.
C) Confident. I know I’ll find love when the time is right.
9. How do you react when friends suggest you’re holding on too long?
A) Defensive. I don’t think they understand how I feel.
B) Reflective. I consider their perspective but still feel conflicted.
C) Agreeable. I know they’re right and am working on letting go.
10. What’s your approach to dating after a past relationship?
A) Hesitant. I compare everyone to my ex.
B) Open-minded but cautious. I take my time to heal first.
C) Excited. I’m ready to meet someone new and start fresh.
Scoring System:
A = Holding On (Struggling to Let Go)
B = In Transition (Healing but Still Attached)
C = Fully Moved On (Emotionally Free)
Tally up the number of times each letter appears in your responses.
Holding On
Your responses suggest that you’re still holding onto past relationships, whether through lingering feelings, nostalgia, or fear of moving forward. While it’s normal to miss someone, staying stuck in the past can prevent you from finding new happiness. Practice self-compassion, seek closure, and focus on building a fulfilling life for yourself, you deserve to move on and thrive.
In Transition
You’re in transition, you’ve made progress in letting go but still feel some attachment to the past. This mindset allows you to reflect and heal, but it’s important to keep moving forward. Focus on self-growth, set boundaries with reminders of your ex, and trust that brighter days are ahead.
Fully Moved On
You’ve fully moved on, you’ve released the past and are ready to embrace new beginnings. Your emotional clarity and confidence make you resilient and open to future connections. Keep nurturing this mindset by staying true to yourself and trusting that love will come when the time is right.
