Instructions:
Write down the answers.
1. When someone asks for help, how do you usually respond?
A) I drop everything to assist them, it’s important to me.
B) I consider my schedule and decide if I can realistically help.
C) I rarely offer help unless it benefits me in some way.
2. How do you handle conflicts in relationships?
A) I prioritize resolving things quickly to restore harmony.
B) I seek a fair compromise that works for both of us.
C) I stand my ground and ensure my needs are met first.
3. What motivates you to do favors for others?
A) The joy of making someone else’s life easier.
B) A sense of reciprocity. I expect help in return someday.
C) Personal gain or recognition, it’s not just about them.
4. How do you feel when someone takes advantage of your kindness?
A) Hurt but willing to forgive. I still want to help others.
B) Frustrated and cautious. I’ll be more careful next time.
C) Unbothered. I don’t let people take advantage of me often.
5. What’s your biggest fear in relationships?
A) Being seen as selfish or uncaring.
B) Feeling unappreciated or taken for granted.
C) Not getting what I need from the other person.
6. How do you approach teamwork?
A) I volunteer for extra tasks to support the group.
B) I contribute fairly and expect others to do the same.
C) I focus on doing only what’s required of me.
7. How do you react when someone compliments your generosity?
A) I feel proud. I love being known as a helpful person.
B) I appreciate it but remind myself not to overextend.
C) I shrug it off. I’m only generous when it suits me.
8. What’s your attitude toward sharing resources (time, money, energy)?
A) I give freely without expecting anything in return.
B) I share willingly but set boundaries to protect myself.
C) I share sparingly. I prefer to keep resources for myself.
9. How do you define success in relationships?
A) Knowing I’ve made a positive impact on others’ lives.
B) Building mutual respect and balance with give-and-take.
C) Getting my needs met and feeling valued by others.
10. How do you feel about asking for help?
A) I avoid it. I’d rather figure things out on my own.
B) I ask when necessary but try not to overburden others.
C) I have no problem asking, it’s how I get what I need.
Scoring System:
A = Giver
B = Balanced Approach
C = Taker
Tally up the number of times each letter appears in your responses.
Giver
You’re a giver! You thrive on helping others and find joy in making a difference in their lives. Your generosity and selflessness inspire those around you, but be mindful of setting boundaries to avoid burnout. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself too!
Balanced Approach
You strike a healthy balance between giving and taking! You value reciprocity and fairness in relationships, ensuring that both parties benefit. Keep nurturing this mindset by continuing to communicate openly and advocate for your needs while supporting others.
Taker
You lean toward being a taker, you prioritize your own needs and interests above others’. While this mindset helps you focus on personal goals, it can strain relationships over time. Practice empathy and consider how small acts of kindness can strengthen your connections with others.
