Instructions:
Write down the answers.
1. How do you react when someone interrupts you while you’re speaking?
A) I feel annoyed and may snap at them.
B) I brush it off and continue what I was saying.
C) I get quiet and withdraw from the conversation.
2. What’s your response when someone criticizes you unfairly?
A) I immediately defend myself or argue back.
B) I take a deep breath and try to understand their perspective.
C) I feel hurt and dwell on it for a while.
3. How do you feel when plans change unexpectedly?
A) Frustrated. I prefer things to go as planned.
B) Slightly annoyed but able to adapt.
C) Overwhelmed and unsure how to proceed.
4. What’s your reaction when someone dismisses your ideas?
A) I feel disrespected and may shut down emotionally.
B) I explain my point again calmly and rationally.
C) I doubt myself and wonder if they’re right.
5. How do you handle being told “no”?
A) I feel rejected and may overthink the situation.
B) I accept it but may feel slightly disappointed.
C) I push harder to convince the other person.
6. What’s your biggest trigger in relationships?
A) Feeling ignored or unappreciated.
B) Miscommunication or lack of clarity.
C) Being taken for granted or not respected.
7. How do you react when someone is late or keeps you waiting?
A) I feel irritated and may confront them about it.
B) I remind myself that things happen and try to stay patient.
C) I feel anxious and start questioning if I’m valued.
8. What’s your response when someone raises their voice during a disagreement?
A) I raise my voice back, it escalates quickly.
B) I stay calm and try to de-escalate the situation.
C) I feel intimidated and struggle to express myself.
9. How do you feel when someone breaks a promise to you?
A) Betrayed and lose trust in them immediately.
B) Disappointed but willing to hear their explanation.
C) Hurt and question whether they truly care about me.
10. What’s your reaction when you’re overwhelmed with tasks?
A) I feel stressed and may lash out at others.
B) I prioritize and focus on one thing at a time.
C) I freeze and struggle to take action.
Scoring System:
A = Highly Reactive (Easily Triggered)
B = Balanced Responder (Thoughtful and Calm)
C = Internally Affected (Emotionally Withdrawn)
Tally up the number of times each letter appears in your responses.
Highly Reactive
You’re highly reactive—certain situations or behaviors can easily set you off. While your passion and intensity are admirable, they may sometimes lead to conflict or stress. Practice mindfulness techniques like deep breathing or pausing before reacting to help manage your triggers.
Balanced Responder
You’re a balanced responder—you acknowledge your emotions but don’t let them overwhelm you. Your ability to stay calm and rational in challenging situations is a strength. Keep nurturing this mindset by continuing to reflect on your feelings and communicate openly with others.
Internally Affected
You tend to internalize your emotions, which can leave you feeling hurt or withdrawn when triggered. While this approach avoids outward conflict, it may cause inner turmoil. Practice expressing your feelings constructively and seek support when needed to process your emotions.
