Instructions:
Write down the answers.
1. How do you react when someone shows interest in you?
A) I pull back. I’m scared they’ll eventually hurt me.
B) I stay cautious but open to seeing where it goes.
C) I embrace it fully. I’m excited to connect.
2. What’s your biggest hesitation about putting yourself out there?
A) Fear of rejection, it feels unbearable.
B) Worry about wasting time on the wrong person.
C) None. I trust that I’ll find the right match eventually.
3. How do you handle vulnerability in dating?
A) I avoid it. I don’t want to get hurt.
B) I share gradually but stay guarded until I trust them.
C) I embrace it, I know it’s key to building intimacy.
4. What’s your reaction when a relationship starts getting serious?
A) I panic and create distance, it feels overwhelming.
B) I take a step back to evaluate if it’s right for me.
C) I lean in. I’m ready to grow together.
5. How do you feel about online dating or meeting new people?
A) Anxious. I worry about being judged or rejected.
B) Open but cautious. I know not everyone will be a fit.
C) Excited. I see it as an opportunity to meet great people.
6. What’s your attitude toward taking risks in love?
A) I avoid risks, they feel too scary or unsafe.
B) I weigh the pros and cons before diving in.
C) I take bold steps. I believe in going after what I want.
7. How do you respond when a partner asks for emotional support?
A) I shut down. I’m afraid of saying the wrong thing.
B) I try my best but worry about overstepping boundaries.
C) I listen openly and offer comfort without hesitation.
8. What’s your biggest fear in relationships?
A) Being rejected or abandoned by my partner.
B) Settling for someone who isn’t truly right for me.
C) Missing out on love because I didn’t try hard enough.
9. How do you handle conflict or disagreements in dating?
A) I avoid it. I’m scared of rocking the boat.
B) I address it calmly but feel uneasy during tough talks.
C) I face it head-on. I know conflict is part of growth.
10. What’s your mindset about expressing your feelings?
A) I hold back. I’m afraid of being vulnerable.
B) I express them selectively. I test the waters first.
C) I speak my truth. I value honesty and openness.
Scoring System:
A = Overlooking Red Flags (Influenced by Loneliness)
B = Balanced Approach (Mindful and Realistic)
C = Discerning (Clear Standards and Boundaries)
Tally up the number of times each letter appears in your responses.
Overlooking Red Flags
Your responses suggest that loneliness may be influencing your decisions, causing you to overlook red flags or settle for less than you deserve. While the desire for connection is natural, it’s important to prioritize your well-being and set healthy boundaries. Take time to focus on yourself and recognize your worth, you deserve a partner who truly values you.
Balanced Approach
You strike a balance between wanting connection and staying mindful of red flags. Your ability to reflect on your emotions and evaluate potential partners helps you make informed decisions. Keep nurturing this mindset by trusting your instincts and maintaining clear boundaries.
Discerning
You’re discerning, you have high standards and refuse to settle for anything less than you deserve. Your confidence and clarity prevent you from overlooking red flags, ensuring you build strong, respectful relationships. Keep prioritizing your values and advocating for the love you deserve.
